Glad my wife took in my outside child

Dear Pastor,

I want to discuss something with you. I call it a discussion, but I know that you are just going to reply and tell me how you feel.

I am now 52 years old and I have four daughters with my wife. I went outside and I have a son with a woman who is younger than my wife. To tell you the truth, Pastor, it was a mistake, but not a complete one. I could have protected this girl from getting pregnant because I knew that she had a boyfriend, but I was a careless man. I was making fairly good money and she wanted some, so I was able to give her more than what her boyfriend was giving. There were times when she lied to her boyfriend and came to me. When she got pregnant, she told her boyfriend that he was the one who impregnated her and he believed her, but that was far from the truth. I knew the child was mine and so did she. I gave her money to prepare for the child and she was happy.

This woman and her boyfriend broke up and I could not hide my feelings for her any more. One day I confessed to my wife that I have a child outside. I sent the mother back to school; now she has her own business. My wife forgave me and told me to go for the child. I assured the mother that she can see the child at any time. My wife told her that she is not losing her son, but she wants all the children under one roof.

This boy is the dead stamp of me. His mother and my wife have become very close friends. Some people told my wife that she was foolish to take the child. Occasionally, I have sex with my son's mother. I have given her money to help purchase a house. She still wants to hang on to me. But I can't do more for her. Her son calls my wife mother, just like his mom. His biological mother told him that he is very fortunate to have two mothers. I am glad that I told my wife the truth and that she has forgiven me.

H.T.

Dear H.T.,

You are a very courageous man. You took the risk and told your wife about your infidelity, and she forgave you and told you to bring the child home to her.

Everybody seems to be living happily, so I am glad that you did not abandon this young woman. You knew from the very outset that she was seeking help, and now you gave her money to help purchase a home. Her son will always be thankful to you for helping his mother.

I have not mentioned the type of work that you do. I would only say to you that although you are financially stable, don't waste your money. Allow this woman to pay all her bills on her own. I hope you will be able to put your son through university. That is all I have to say at this time.

Pastor