I am tired of sharing my girlfriend

Dear Pastor,

When I was in high school I had a girlfriend, but I also knew that she had a big man who was taking care of her.

She did not hide it from me. This man was a manager of a store. She used to take money from him and give to me. I couldn't say anything because I needed the help, too. Her mother found out that she was dating this man and asked her about it. She admitted to her mother that both of them were seeing each other. She also admitted that the man had taken her virginity, but he always used a condom whenever they had sex.

This girl went to carnival last year and the man bought her an outfit that cost a lot of money. Her mother thought that she was going to carnival with me. The man gave her money to take a taxi home, but instead of going home, she went out with me after she left the carnival. It was the first time I was taking a woman to a place of class. Nobody was looking at us because nobody was dressed in carnival outfits.

We saw one of our teachers at the hotel, but we went to our room, and she called her mother from the room and lied about where we were. We spent three hours in the room, and from there we called a taxi to take us home.

This businessman was with his wife at home and did not know that she was with me at this hotel. This man does not want to leave her, and she does not want to leave him because of the money she is getting from him.

I want them to break up.

I am glad for the money that she gives me that comes from him, but I am tired of sharing her with this man. What can I do?

I am hoping to attend university very soon.

C.

Dear C.,

I would say to you that your girlfriend has been carrying on a very risky affair; and she had the courage to tell her mother that her boyfriend is a much older man who supports her regularly.

Her mother did not tell her to break up that relationship. That is what her mother should have done. Her mother encouraged her to have the relationship with this older man because of the benefits she was getting from him. Even if you had money occasionally, it is said that "schoolboy money done lunch time". But every girl knows that going with a man comes with a heavy price, so she has had to have sex with this older man to continue to get money from him. You want her to end the relationship with him. But it is unlikely that she will until you are in a position to support her.

Talk to her about it and hear how she feels.

Pastor