Collegemate trying to sleep with me

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old girl and I am attending teachers' college. I met a young man who is attending the same college.

He told me that he loves me and he wants us to be friends. I told him that we can be social friends but nothing more because I do not know him. He said we will get to know each other. Every time we talk, he brings up sex. I told him there are other things that should be more important for us to talk about.

He does not know my parents, neither do I know his. He told me his folks are living under poor conditions in rural Jamaica. I have only heard of the area that he is from. He asked me if I would like to visit there with him and I told him yes. He said that I may have to stay over, so I told him I am not interested in staying at the home of people I do not know.

One day we went out on a date; it was to see a play. The play ended early, so I told him that I would like to get back to the hostel and he said that he would love for us to go somewhere else because he is anxious to 'sample my special spot'. I asked him what he meant and he said that he is talking about my vagina. He said he would like to sample it because no wise man will want to buy puss in bag. I told him that I will not go out with him anymore, but he keeps calling me and sending me texts. He tries to give my friends the impression that he and I are having a relationship.

I told him that there are other girls at the school, so if he is anxious to sample a vagina, he can talk to these girls. He said he is from a poor family, but he always has money. He is not interested in attending church, but I have declared to him that I am a Christian. When the time is right, I hope to meet a Christian partner.

I have never had sex, but I wouldn't give this guy a chance in my life. He is no good. He said that he will get what he wants from me. I told him if he tries to rape me or anything like that, I will report him to the police.

P.

Dear P.,

This guy should learn to keep himself quiet. He has no class. He says that he is interested in you, but if sex is the only thing he can talk about, you shouldn't have anything to do with him.

You should make sure that you do not take anything from him either. He is not a wise man. He wanted you to go to rural Jamaica with him and to spend the night there. But where would you spend the night? At his parents' house? You are wiser than that.

He wants to sample you. You are not a fruit and you are not selling anything. You have learnt to keep your body under subjection, so you were quite right in ending the relationship with him. You should block his number from your phone. He is surely not the type of man you should have as a friend.

I wish you well. Study hard because you need to not just pass your examinations - you need to get high grades.

Pastor