My small-penis husband is blowing my mind

Dear Pastor,

I have been married for more than 10 years and my husband is not black. I say that upfront because black men are gifted. Well, my husband is not gifted. He has a small penis. We have three children together. When we got married, I was pregnant and he told me that some of his friends repeatedly asked him if he was sure that he was the one who got me pregnant. He used to tell them he was sure, but time would tell when the child is born. 

Well, the child took on his complexion, and nobody questioned after that whether he was the father. About a year and a half after, he got me pregnant again. We have three children together now. His private part has not grown, but he is hot like fire in bed. He knows how to turn me on. He does not just have a little penis; he is small in body. 

So, Pastor, I am saying it is not all the time that size matters. I had to go to the doctor and tell him that I want my tubes to be tied because I didn’t want to get pregnant again. It is not true to suggest that the bigger the penis, the more enjoyable the sex will be. This matter came up for discussion among a group of women at my church. I was so amazed how women felt about this thing. When my time came to speak, the women applauded me. 

I even got women, whose husbands are tall and are gifted, to admit that their husbands can’t even satisfy them in bed. So to all such women, I say, they need to talk to someone like my husband, who knows how to use his fingers and his mouth on the right places of their bodies and get them in the mood. They would realise it is not the size of a man penis that matters, but it is how a man uses what God has given to him. 

Over to you Pastor. 

L

Dear L.,

First of all, I am glad to know that your church conducts counselling sessions. Every church should have that. The men and women should be together for certain sessions, and then they should be separated for others.

Sometimes having a professional speak can be very helpful. The same thing should be done for young adults and teenagers in the Church. 

I am glad that you have found it necessary to write and say that it is not necessarily true that the size of the penis matters.  I recall that a nurse came to see me and raised the matter of whether size matters and she was convinced that it does. She is a woman of experience. She had gone to bed with a number of men. She said she could not deal with men who are very small. She said their thing was only wiggling up in her. She liked to feel something in her. 

Well, I could not argue with the woman, but I understand very well what you are saying. What you are saying is that long and good foreplay is better than a man who has large penis and doesn’t know how to use it. 

I think I made mention, not very long ago in this column, of a woman who said to me that she has now remarried and her husband has a small penis. However, he continues to blow her mind with romance. He knows what to do to turn her on and to keep her happy throughout lovemaking.
I will say to men who are struggling to satisfy their women that they should buy books about the art of lovemaking and stop complaining on the size of the penis. 

Pastor